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    Looking for some tactful advice

    Need a tactful way to avoid babysitting someone's child. I know this sound bad, but it always results in a head lice infestation.
    Used to watch this child alot until I moved. Child always had head lice. Had to constantly treat my children. Have treated her head myself.
    Recently I babysat for her and today found a live bug. Have extremely long hair so this is aggrevating. How can I avoid watching her w/out seeming rude or it seeming that I think I am better then them. I know I'm not, but I am at the age that just don't want to be inconvenienced by anyone.

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    Tact: The ability to tell someone to go to hell and have them look forward to the trip.

    Explain that while you enjoy watching the child, you are concerned about the recurring issue of lice, which is not only an inconvenience, but a health concern of yours.

    Taken from HeadLice.org

    While many have thought head lice to be only a nuisance, recent scientific study refutes this notion. DNA technology shows head lice to be the same species as the notorious body louse which has long been associated with diseases such as typhus and relapsing fever. The potential for disease transmission via the head louse should not be underestimated.
    You may also want to get one of these cards to back up your concern.
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    Just say NO to bugs

    Sorry, I had to do that.

    I would just tell the person that you can't watch the child. You don't have to have an excuse. "I'm sorry, but I just can't babysit for you now".

    If they have the poor manners to say "Why not?", just repeat the sentence, with a little more emphasis.

    Your life and your time is yours. Sharing it with others should be your option, not an obligation.

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    I don't think this situation calls for tact

    Thinking both of her children and yours, I think directness & honesty is the better policy.

    Is it possible she's not aware???
    Her poor kid is going to have no friends willing to come over, or hang out with him at school or whatever if she doesn't deal with the situation in some way. A few times can happen to anybody, but chronic ???

    Besides, if she's offended by your honesty, you've already moved, so maybe the damage would be minimized...

    If honesty/directness doesn't appeal to you, you could always try lying :

    "Gee, I know it's not your fault, that Freddie gets it from daycare/church/afterschool/other kids/whatever; but my Suzy is allergic to lice, so I have to make sure she's not exposed."


    Just another take....

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    social services has free babysitting

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    "Sorry, I can't babysit today.'

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    That's why I have Caller ID. If it seems like your never home when she calls after a while she'll quit asking.

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    "Sorry, I can't, I don't have enough lice medication."

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    I agree with being honest - you have to put your kids and yourself first. Just be polite and make sure it is known that you dont mind sitting the child, it is all about the lice.

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    Thanks for the tact! The problem is they don't want to spend the time to et all the nits out of her hair. They would rather go party or see friends then to do what parents are suppose to do: "Take care of the kids first".
    I use a nit comb on my hair constantly after washing and actually only found 1 live bug and no nits, so maybe I nipped it early.

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    Quote Originally Posted by eabu
    "Sorry, I can't, I don't have enough lice medication."

    EXCELLENT:claps: :claps:

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    you could buy yourself a LouseBuster or even better, give them one for christmas

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kadin'sMama
    I agree with being honest - you have to put your kids and yourself first. Just be polite and make sure it is known that you dont mind sitting the child, it is all about the lice.


    Bingo! Maybe even mail her some lice shampoo or whatever and if she asks you about it or mentions it, just tell her "I was trying to be polite and not embaress you. Every time I baby sit your children, me and mine get head lice. You really need to take care of it, don't you think?" Then If the lady is too sorry to take the time or seems to be offended than she is more than ignorant. SHE is NEGLECTFUL to her Children. (you've done your part)Seperate yourself from it.

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