I am just a sad mom...

MrsK2002

MrsK2002

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My 22 year old daughter,Nikki really shocked my husband and I as we were driving around running errands on Friday.She said that she was wanting to go into the military,and had been thinking seriously about this for sometime now.Wow.
With the job market down here in Florida having crappy pay,the only place to work is for Disney or places like that or 7-11 UNLESS you have some sort of college degree.***No disrespect to anyone working at these places***.
My husband who is a former Marine,had a tear in his eye because he was happy with her decision.Although my opinion was just the opposite,of course.In my mind,I tried to think happy thoughts.I told her in all honestly how I felt about the job situation and whatever.I would back her up 100%.
We both told her that if she joined the military,her window of opportunity will open up to things and places she could only dream of.
As her mom....I will really miss her.She was my special baby when she was born.She was only 2#,3oz's when she arrived.Doctors said because she was so small,she might not live past 13.Well here she is,22 years old and I may lose her knowing if she joins the military,I won't ever see her again...and it hurts...:cry::sad:.
Please....NO sadistic jokes about her going to Iraq or wherever.Please enlighten me with positive stuff about her joining the military.:prey:
Thanks~**~*~*~
 
my son joined the navy in 2005 it was the best thing for him, once he was very immature, now he has grown into a wonderful young man. good luck to your daughter and to your family.
 
My Polish Grandmother had a saying about daughters that went like this..."A son is a son until he takes a wife. But a daughter is a daughter for the rest of her life." While I can't lend any wisdom to the job choice, she is of an age where she can certainly make an educated decision on her own. Once made, your job as a Mommy will be to support the same, and, buy lots of Kleenex!! We hold our children in various ways throughout their lives...sometimes honey, the hardest time is when we can only hold them close to our heart. You know how to reach me, and, I am a good listener, any time! :)
 
I cant say I have ever been in your shoes....I dont have any family in the military, nor do I have a daughter (not yet anyway) but I will tell you this....I am so thankful for those who devote their lives to serving this country. It takes a special person to sacrifice their lives (meaning leaving their family & friends, the moving around, etc) for this country. I applaud your daughter and anyone else reading this who has family or friends who serve or have served. Thank you for all you have done and all you do.

We try to give back as much as we can. Whenever we see someone in uniform or fatigues we say thank you to them or buy them a coffee or soda. Just recently we met up with a young man in the airport and asked him if he needed anything. He was thirsty so we bought him the biggest bottle of water we could find......it was the least we could do for all he has done.

Will keep your daughter in prayer and thoughts - we will keep you in them too.
 
I think it's wonderful!

I know that it will be hard on you. I couldn't even imagine!

My father, my grandfathers, my uncles, etc were all in the military and most of them fought in wars (some on the front lines). There is a pride to being a part of the Military. I wish more would understand all the good that our military does not only for the people who enlist, but for our country and for others around the world as well.

It's all good!
 
:prey:Let's pray by the time she goes thrue basic this "war" will be over. :prey:
 
i remember when my son signed up (before he graduated high school) i had one of his teachers thanking me for allowing me to let my son enter the military. there are alot of thankful people out and sad to say not so thankful. once again good luck.
 
Your daughter made a tough choice and I say kudos to her. I admire all of our troops and have the utmost respect for them.
 
hey mrs k,

i'm kinda in the same boat. my youngest (20 years old) son (I don't believe in the "step" term, but he is not biologically mine) told us on Christmas Eve that, for the same reasons you mentioned, he has met with reps from both the Marines and Air Force. I'm worried about his safety too and where he'll eventually be stationed but -seriously- sad to say, the kids have nearly no opportunities today. I fondly remember the days when generations of family were employed in - albeit seemingly meanial but often highly skilled - jobs at the local GE plant. Decent pay, great benefits and job security were pretty much guaranteed and a lot of families were able to afford to live on a single income. I seriously thnk that if my hubby - being a veteran himself - had known that this was the only promising opportunity for his college grad son, that he might have chosen not to have children in the first place. I think it's a pretty sad state of affairs when kids have almost no other choice than to risk their very lives in order to secure a future for themselves. Please know that I sincerely imply any disrespect to those involved in the US Armed Forces. I am the daughter of a Vietnam vet that died as a direct result of service on 12/13/76. I have obviously nothing but the utmost respect for those that defend and serve our country, but I am just so concerned for the future of of our kids. Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Perhaps we can comiserate with each other sometime?
 
Well last night she told her grandparents(not my mom and dad) that she has made her decision to join the Army.While talking to them she had mentioned to them she was joining the Army to not be a hero,but because she is having a hard time finding a good job with out any college degree behind her.She cannot afford college.She has been collecting unemployment and also said she cannot collect unemployment forever.
I told her that I am behind her 100%.I told her that this was her chance to spread her wings and fly.She has an opportunity to see the world,something that I ONLY dream of.
She told me "mom,no matter where I am,you will always be my best friend."
I think I raised a pretty good daughter.:yesnod:
 
Oh snappp.

Well it looks as if my daughter wont be able to go into the military after all.She met with her Army recruiter who was very nice.But when she told him she was having a seizure at night and blacked out,a red flag went up.He did tell her to get checked out and come back.A Marine recruiter also called for her,and her just flat out told her no.I knew she had blacked out once before,but wasn't aware of the one last night.The one she had before wasn't the kind where a person just falls on the ground and shakes uncontrollably.
So now I don't know what she is going to do.She has no health insurance and is still unemployed.:unsure:I don't know what to do or say.What a bummer.:sad:
 
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Neither of my sons wants to go into the military, but we would support that decision. My oldest has flat feet so they wouldn't take him anyway.
Your daughter should look into Job Corps. As long as she isn't in trouble with the law, they would accept her. She gets a place to stay and training for a career. She should get checked out by a doctor if she's having seizures.
 
She cannot go to a doctor as she has no job and no medical insurance.:nonod:
 
I'm in the same boat as your daughter. I can't work but can't get approved for disability because I don't have the medical evidence to back it up. Depending on where you live, there are free clinics and some that only charge a small fee and if you don't have it, they will work with you. If she is having seizures, you could probably get her seen at a health dept. or the hospital. If a problem is found, then she can apply for an emergency medical card or a spend down card. Just call your local food stamp office.
 
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