Is this rude or am I just cranky?

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Today I was planning to go to a bridal shower given for a friend. Not a real close friend, just somebody I've know from church for a while. I don't know the girl who's hosting it, however. The other day I called to RSVP and get directions, but nobody answered, so I left a message asking the hostess to call me back and give me directions. She never called back. I looked it up on google maps so I'd have some idea where to go and I got in the car with the number and my cell phone thinking I'd drive down the road and just look for her house number until I found it, and if I couldn't find it, I'd call the number given to RSVP. Well, I couldn't find it, so I called, but nobody answered. I kept looking until 30 minutes after the shower started and I called again--still no answer. I just did not see the house number on any of the mailboxes and I didn't see any balloons or decorations or anything to indicate which house it was. This is a busy but curvy 2 lane road so it was actually pretty difficult to drive and pay attention to the house numbers--which is why I called ahead to try to get directions. I finally gave up and went home.

Anyway, after going to the trouble of buying a gift, finding something decent to wear despite being 8 1/2 months pregnant, marking the event on my calendar and RSVPing, and calling a total of three times to try to figure out where the house is, I am pretty annoyed that this girl won't even answer the phone. I mean, I know it's rude to talk on the phone when you have company, but when people are coming to her house that have never been there before, you'd think she would have the common sense and the decency to answer the phone if it rang several times. It's not like I was calling just to chat-- I was calling to find the shower that SHE invited me to! Grrrrr.:mad:

So would y'all consider this rude or am I just being a cranky pregnant lady?
 
if there is no logical explaination, THAT IS RUDE!!!! :mad:

take the present back to the store, grrrrrr



antdrewsmom (not pregnant)
 
First, congrats on your pending motherhood! :) I hope your shower goes much smoother. ;)

Yes it was rude. Perhaps the shower was cancelled, or moved to another location? Even still, all the more reason to pick up a phone when it rings or return a message. I know I'd be annoyed, pregnant or not. Sorry that happened to you.

Preco (not prego) :angel: :marshmallow:
 
antdrewsmom said:
if there is no logical explaination, THAT IS RUDE!!!! :mad:

take the present back to the store, grrrrrr



antdrewsmom (not pregnant)
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I agree with this lady......

Daredevil(also not pregnant)LOL
 
I think that is very rude. Now if it was me in that situation when i was pregnant she would of gotten a very nasty voicemail ;) Return the gift and move on i wouldnt put any effort into it if there is a next time.
 
Personally, I think they had a pool going to see how many times you would drive up & down the street before giving up
 
diGriz, have you been changing street signs again.....:doh:
 
Are you sure that you called the correct phone #? I know that sounds stupid, but I've made a mistake in dialing before - and have gotten calls for other people on my message machine. Sign me "Devil's Advocate" .............:wave:
 
I was thinking something might be "out" with the phone numbers one way or the other.
If not, just TP the front yard.

JerryP, (not Prego) :clown: :censored: :ignore:
 
I wonder if the phone number was actually someone else's and not the house where the shower was. Either way, I would be pissed also.

Not prego nor do I have P.M.S. :teeth:
 
dbee said:
I wonder if the phone number was actually someone else's and not the house where the shower was. Either way, I would be pissed also.

Not prego nor do I have P.M.S. :teeth:
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do you expect us to believe that???

LOL
 
It wasn't rude of you...she was being rude and very inconsiderate.I would have given up after two attempts and two phone calls to find her.I would return the gift you bought her and buy something nice for yourself or your baby.
Dianne...not pregnant and no pms!!!!
 
The only issue that I have with the gift is.....the shower was for the person who was not rude. So now she would lose out because of her flakey friend/relative/??? who threw the shower. :noidea: not fair.

If you know this girl and want her to have the gift, I'd give it to her and explain why you weren't there.....
 
With all the "direction providing" services out there when I give a party of any kind I just include a mini set of general driving instructions in all the invitations (unless you're my neighbor or something!). It has always saved a lot of hassle both for the party attendee and the host not fielding 40 "how do I get there?" phone calls on party day! Maybe a thought to pass on for the next shower!:)
 
I wonder how any other person made it?

But I probably wouldn't have went. Being able to confirm is necessary for me.
 
precocious said:
The only issue that I have with the gift is.....the shower was for the person who was not rude. So now she would lose out because of her flakey friend/relative/??? who threw the shower. :noidea: not fair.

If you know this girl and want her to have the gift, I'd give it to her and explain why you weren't there.....
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I agree with this. If you want the girl to have her gift then I would do exactly that; give it to her and explain what happened and why you weren't there. It seems pretty funny that you couldn't find the house and no one answered the phone on three different occassions.
 
Well, thanks everybody for validating my feelings. I feel better now. :-)

I'm just going to save the gift and bring it to the wedding since it wasn't the bride's fault. I guess she just won't be able to hang up her shower curtain or fluff her expensive towels before the honeymoon.

I am sure I had the right phone number, as I got their answering machine and their outgoing message includes their last name. I left a message and she hasn't even called back to acknowledge my message after the fact. So whatever.
 
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