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MrsK2002

MrsK2002

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Ever since the beginning of last summer,i have had to suffer through our neighbors domestic disputes.They start out at 11 pm and don't quit until 2am sometimes 3am.They are very loud.It started out between the father and his oldest son.And now its between the oldest son and his girlfriend.
The f bombs are flying everwhere.I am a light sleeper because of my neck problems.My husband sometimes is a heavy sleeper,but he hears this stuff too.My husband has to get up for work at 4 am.
Ok, now do i approach the mom about this? Or what do i do?This is very inconsiderate on their behalf.Our bedroom window is 25 feet away from their front porch.Yes thats how close we are to hearing everything.
I am extremely tired because of their arguements.
HELP!!!
 
I have had to go through this as well, we have lived in a few apartments and townhomes where the neighbors were terrible, so I will tell you what I did. Contacting the police is not only the safest, but the most effective and anonymous way to stop the fighting. Once they start up, just call 911, 911 will send the police, they can either stop fighting or get locked up. After getting the police called on them, they should realize someone around doesn't appreciate their human trashiness and shutup, although if it doesn't stop being locked up a time or two should shut them up. You can call 911 on them, how are you to know whether or not they have a gun and either you or your husband could very well get hurt if they get REALLY stupid and decide to involve weapons in the dispute. When you call 911 they will ask (at least they do in my state) do you want them to know who you are, just tell them no, if they are up fighting at 2am, they have no, you hear me, NO common sense, LOL, after calling the police a few times, the police will get fed up with them and lock them up for every fight they are involved in if it gets bad enough, but I feel your pain, once the warm weather hits, the idiots come out of the woodwork ,literally!
 
Ultimate, you are on the mark with that.....:bigok:
 
I've had to call the cops on rowdy neighbors a few times.
I've never had to call them twice on the same neighbors
 
Thank you.I wasn't about to get in the middle of any domestic dispute.I am afraid to call the police for fear of retributions.I am afraid to leave my name.
But what really irks me is the inconsideration of these neighbors.We live on a horseshoe shaped court and i am sure i am not the only neighbor who has to suffer night after night with this.Thanks so much ladies for the helpful input.
 
the police won't tell them who called, unless you request it.
 
you can make a difference for the whole neighborhood, :claps: just do it! :secret: But be anonymous. :creep:
 
MrsK2002 said:
Ever since the beginning of last summer,i have had to suffer through our neighbors domestic disputes.They start out at 11 pm and don't quit until 2am sometimes 3am.They are very loud.It started out between the father and his oldest son.And now its between the oldest son and his girlfriend.
The f bombs are flying everwhere.I am a light sleeper because of my neck problems.My husband sometimes is a heavy sleeper,but he hears this stuff too.My husband has to get up for work at 4 am.
Ok, now do i approach the mom about this? Or what do i do?This is very inconsiderate on their behalf.Our bedroom window is 25 feet away from their front porch.Yes thats how close we are to hearing everything.
I am extremely tired because of their arguements.
HELP!!!
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A song comes to mind: "Bad boys, Bad boys, whatcha gonna do? Whatcha gonna do when they come for you?"
 
Well for right now,there hasn't been a peep heard out of them.So i am happy.
 
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Earplugs.

Contrary to what the poster said above, people in this country have a right to confront their accuser.
 
morriefisher said:
Earplugs.

Contrary to what the poster said above, people in this country have a right to confront their accuser.
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Well you're partly right~if she accused them of a crime and brought them to trial they have a right to confront their accuser. To phone in a noise complaint and/or domestic dispute, the police have no obligation to divulge who has reported them and quite frankly would probably see it as counter-productive as it could escalate an already volatile situation. The point is to have the police respond and for them to determine if it is or has the potential to elevate to a criminal act or violation.
 
Actually, I went to the police & asked them about it &, yes, we as americans have a right to confront people that call in too.....An exception is given if it's a criminal matter. They showed me the book.

Record them arguing & play it back at 2am full blast.. That should work.
 
morriefisher said:
Actually, I went to the police & asked them about it &, yes, we as americans have a right to confront people that call in too.....An exception is given if it's a criminal matter. They showed me the book.

Record them arguing & play it back at 2am full blast.. That should work.
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Wow, that's very interesting. I have a number of immediate family members in law enforcement and their observation is most people do not request the identity of the "complainer" when the cops knock at your door! Truly, your suggestion to "play it back at 2am full blast" is just the kind of behaviour that can escalate one problem into an even bigger one. Trained, professional law officers handling the situation seems the safest choice for all concerned.

I am sure you are a correct if they showed it to you in a book, but I respectfully disagree with irritating an already volatile situation (from the description) with more intolerable behaviour. Let's just pray that the "offenders" put as much thought into their bad behaviour as we have talking about it!!;)
 
morriefisher said:
Actually, I went to the police & asked them about it &, yes, we as Americans have a right to confront people that call in too.....An exception is given if it's a criminal matter. They showed me the book.
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It may very well be in the book (I don't doubt you read this) but all the police I know are pretty smart and practical. They would respond to a loud quarrel and possible domestic incident but would be foolish to say "that guy -----> X called us". Then they would have to potential of a feud on their hands. Practically they should just investigate it and handle anything they find.

I believe I once heard that a smart intelligence officer never reveals his sources. If he does, no more sources.

If a person is not causing trouble, making noise to disturb the neighbors, etc. the chances are pretty remote that I will have "accusers". And if something is reported to 911 that turns out to be untrue it would amount to a prank 911 call which I believe is a crime. They can ask if you want to report anonymously but your phone is ID'd.
 
Thank god it has been quiet in the last few nights.That must mean one thing:
the mom must have quit her job because all hell DOES not break loose when she is at home.If mama ain't happy then no one is.:claps:
 
Boy MrsK, :doh: you do have a lot on your plate all the time. :yo: I wish you the best!
 
Ask ANY law enforcement officer and they will tell you that domestic situations are by far THE most dangerous situations they have to deal with - especially if one of the "parties to the offense" is unstable. In my neighborhood, police respond to these incidents without sirens blaring because they know that the mere sound of a police vehicle can become a life and death situation in a heartbeat. I will always say that the police are the best bet and way to go. Way back (pre-OJ) when I was 17 and in a very abusive relationship - a concerned neighbor's call LITERALLY saved my life! The neighboor's name was never revealed in his deposition but I was able to thank him through my attorney. I will never know who he is, but thank God for people like him ---- and you!!!!
 
Honestly, I have been there done that way too many times to say with no doubt in my mind, Morrie, You got issues! How many times have I not only watched on COPS this scene played time and again, but I have lived in some of the worst, low income, trash talkin jerry springer talk show guest list horror show kinda places, honey I was homeless for over a year! Been there, done that, got the tshirt, matchin shoes and purse! Take my advice MrsK, or better yet, call the police non emergency number, speak to a police officer or desk warmer deputy, you'll get practically verbatim word for word, minus the personality compliments of me.

Morrie, you must have led a sheltered life, or you're 12! OR you actually think the law goes by THE BOOKS! LOL
 
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ladymez said:
Ask ANY law enforcement officer and they will tell you that domestic situations are by far THE most dangerous situations they have to deal with - especially if one of the "parties to the offense" is unstable. In my neighborhood, police respond to these incidents without sirens blaring because they know that the mere sound of a police vehicle can become a life and death situation in a heartbeat. I will always say that the police are the best bet and way to go. Way back (pre-OJ) when I was 17 and in a very abusive relationship - a concerned neighbor's call LITERALLY saved my life! The neighboor's name was never revealed in his deposition but I was able to thank him through my attorney. I will never know who he is, but thank God for people like him ---- and you!!!!
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Yikkess. Move to Hell's Kitchen. It's quiet here (except for the firetruck sirens, construction, subway rumble, etc.. - but you get used to THAT). In the past 10 years I know of only one "incident" and it was in the street involving some partying gang members shooting each other. But that could happen on anyone's block in any big city.
 
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