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omnisbaby

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Me and my hubby have been together for 5 years and to say the least he has a drug problem so he got arrested because I called the cops on him when I found Xanex in his car from a Phamacy (he used to work for an inventory company) so he stole em from a store apparently. And he has had 2 DUI's and been baker acted (this was before i met him) I just learned about the baker act when I had to get police reports UGH what was I THINKING?!?!?!?!?!?! Well he was being a prick he called from jail and the first thing he asked me was where are my computers! UGH nothing like saying Im sorry or how is our son!!!!!!!!!!! So I went to file a restraining order agaisnt him cuz he was threatning me and stuff and that was denied because there is no history of violence. Well we were going to work things out AGAIN until he txt msg me and called me a total of 67 times once at like 2am and that day i found my car egged. So I finally went to an attorney and started a divorce. Well needless to say in the meantime I didnt tell him that I was doing that. My car has been egged twice and he drives by my house ALL the time. He got a job and quit the day I told him I filed child support. Now he got served today and hes being VERY HARSH verbally and what im worried about is my 2 year old son He has such a bad addiction that Im scared of him taking him for weekends or whatever the court grants him. Now I'm hoping that since hes facing a drug charge that will be to the benefit of my son's well being!!! My attorney think's so. Im sorry this is soooooo long but I had to rant my best friend is outta town in BFE and has no signal on her phone and I cant get a hold of her! :verysad: I have been a stay at home mom and when this all happened I had to go to work uproot my son's little world and im extremely PO'd and upset about everything.....I just dont know what to do WHY CANT I JUST GET OVER HIM!!!!!!


sorry for the rant!
 
I'm truly sorry to hear about your tough times.
I hope things work out (and I'm sure they will, little by little)
 
I'm so sorry, Omni, hopefully the restraining order and his arrests will keep him away. :hug: This should also stop him from getting any visitation rights with your son, I wish I could say more, but I just don't know what else to say. :( I want you to know that I will pray for you and hope that all turns out well. :hug: :kiss:
 
:28: you said your "husband", do you want him to be your "ex-husband"? It almost sounded like you still want to be with him.......... :doh:


I wish you the best, this is really aweful :verysad:



:bigok: we are here for you!
 
Well it's hard when you have a child together, I have been through all the legal stuff 2 times over now, once for me and once for my husband, if ya got any questions, PM me, I may be able to help, if you need someone to yap with, PM me and I can turn on my AOL IM for ya, sorry you have to go through this, bad things happen to good people, doesn't make it easy or right but like dbee said we are here for you!
 
Omni, I am truly sorry to hear all this. I cant offer you any advice but I will offer my prayers and support. There are alot of good caring people here that you can pour your heart out to, so dont be afraid to do so. We are here for ya! :hug:
 
Life doesn't suck. Life is a glorious miracle. (Remember when they handed you your son for the first time?)

Circumstances suck. Fortunately circumstances can change. Sometimes only by God's power, so keep praying! I'll pray for you, and I'm sure others here will too...but make sure you're praying yourself!
 
omni, I hope things get better for you and your son soon. I think you have a good case with his arrest and drug record, and I hope you'll be granted sole custody for your child's sake.
 
Thank You EVERYONE!!! :hug: you have a good point yes life doesnt suck its just certain things in life suck. The thing that irks me is last night he was all nice cuz until i switched his phone over to his name then all verbal hell borke loose. For the past year and a half he hasnt had a license so i have been escorting his happy butt around to work driving like 200 miles a day he traveled all over the city and ODD hours So needless to say my son has had it rough and I hated every moment of it Id have to wake him up to get him in the car at like 4am and then pick him up at noon then back to work around five pick him at midnight it was insane and he didnt appreciate it at all well at least it doesnt seem like he did. Now i started working at my old job which is where he wrked and i met him and everyone is telling me this and that so it pushed me to the divorce and today someone told me the complete opposite I dont know what to believe. Yes unfortunately I DONT want it to end but it is to the benefit of my happy lil boy. I dont want him growing up to see the alchol drugs and disfunction that willa rise out of all this So I HAVE TO DIVORCE HIM for my sons sake. Children come first. Ok im rambling but thank you again everyone for your prayers and support!!!
 
Dear omni - I am so sorry to hear about your situation, but there might be a bit of comfort in this situation. I totally urge you to contact your local YWCA - they usually have a domestic violence program that - at least in my State of NH - works with women whose children are fathered by drug addicts and are, therefore, considered "unstable" (the arrests and/or convictions may serve as proof - along with any recent admissions into rehab). Here in NH, women do NOT need to present a restraining order. The assistance I am suggesting from the organization is supervised visitation. You would drop off the kid(s) at the location and the visit would be supervised through a partition by a trained volunteer. This would aleviate your concern about the kid(s) being left in a potentially dangerous situation. This service is usually free. I hope everything works out for you :hug:
 
I dunno about the YWCA, ( I would depend on social services for supervised visits) but with the YWCA their homeless program is bad, I only know this because I have been through it, they will charge you $50 a week rent for a teeny room, it's not free and it's not the best place for a child considering some of the women there aren't on the up and up, this is only in my area, it may be different in different areas, and a shelter for battered women or anything like that was really bad in my area too, we ended up living in one and it was HORRIBLE, they told me what a bad mom I was for trying to retain custody of my little girl and not just giving her up to social services who would in turn give her to the other side, I was forced to take parenting classes, I wasn't a bad parent, I just couldn't afford to pay a lawyer and my bills. I was slammed in every which way possible at that shelter by a woman who claimed to be a christian with a 4 year college degree, she didn't go to church and she got her phsychological degree online. You have to be very careful, but I will say that areas do vary and mine might be an isolated case.
 
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I dunno about the YWCA, ( I would depend on social services for supervised visits) but with the YWCA their homeless program is bad, I only know this because I have been through it, they will charge you $50 a week rent for a teeny room, it's not free and it's not the best place for a child considering some of the women there aren't on the up and up, this is only in my area, it may be different in different areas, and a shelter for battered women or anything like that was really bad in my area too, we ended up living in one and it was HORRIBLE, they told me what a bad mom I was for trying to retain custody of my little girl and not just giving her up to social services who would in turn give her to the other side, I was forced to take parenting classes, I wasn't a bad parent, I just couldn't afford to pay a lawyer and my bills. I was slammed in every which way possible at that shelter by a woman who claimed to be a christian with a 4 year college degree, she didn't go to church and she got her phsychological degree online. You have to be very careful, but I will say that areas do vary and mine might be an isolated case.
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i am not talking about the battered women's shelter at all - but ONLY the supervised visitation program! I never even mentioned a shelter... How did we get off on such a tangent? I am a woman who has benefited from the YWCA's Domestic Violence programs in the past (being sheltered from a man who had shot at both me and my mom w/ a double barreled shotgun on March 17, 1986). I know that they offer great service to ANY woman, espcially a mom, who feels she is in danger. I hope this clears it up an truly helps..........
 
ULTIMATEgrafx said:
I dunno about the YWCA, ( I would depend on social services for supervised visits) but with the YWCA their homeless program is bad, I only know this because I have been through it, they will charge you $50 a week rent for a teeny room, it's not free and it's not the best place for a child considering some of the women there aren't on the up and up, this is only in my area, it may be different in different areas, and a shelter for battered women or anything like that was really bad in my area too, we ended up living in one and it was HORRIBLE, they told me what a bad mom I was for trying to retain custody of my little girl and not just giving her up to social services who would in turn give her to the other side, I was forced to take parenting classes, I wasn't a bad parent, I just couldn't afford to pay a lawyer and my bills. I was slammed in every which way possible at that shelter by a woman who claimed to be a christian with a 4 year college degree, she didn't go to church and she got her phsychological degree online. You have to be very careful, but I will say that areas do vary and mine might be an isolated case.
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I am sorry to hear that you had such an awful experience, ultimate. I would hope that it would never deter another woman (especially with children) from seeking help, though. I'm very sure that, since you've been there, you would agree that ANY living condition is far better than one of living in fear for the life and safety of you and your children.....
 
ULTIMATEgrafx said:
I dunno about the YWCA, ( I would depend on social services for supervised visits) but with the YWCA their homeless program is bad, I only know this because I have been through it, they will charge you $50 a week rent for a teeny room, it's not free and it's not the best place for a child considering some of the women there aren't on the up and up, this is only in my area, it may be different in different areas, and a shelter for battered women or anything like that was really bad in my area too, we ended up living in one and it was HORRIBLE, they told me what a bad mom I was for trying to retain custody of my little girl and not just giving her up to social services who would in turn give her to the other side, I was forced to take parenting classes, I wasn't a bad parent, I just couldn't afford to pay a lawyer and my bills. I was slammed in every which way possible at that shelter by a woman who claimed to be a christian with a 4 year college degree, she didn't go to church and she got her phsychological degree online. You have to be very careful, but I will say that areas do vary and mine might be an isolated case.
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Seems like you really didn't need to slam all this at Omnisbaby on a day when she sounded so in pain and so scared for her son. All the other posts were so loving and supportive~maybe you could have waited to share all this. Sometimes people just need a day or two of pure encouragement before facing more "reality".
 
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